Every Search Begins With A Decision

Why would you  Search?

What is your reason for making the decision to find a person? Adoption, separation, old friend, someone owes you money and has skipped town. 

What are your feelings?

Are your feelings positive or negative? Either type can be strong incentive to make the decision to search.

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When you make the decision to search you need to ask yourself these questions:

• What if I decide to search and I can’t find the person?
• What if he/she does not want to see me if I do find them? 
• What if he/she is deceased? 
• I am angry that he/she left me, what if I cannot control that anger? 
• What will be the effect this person will have on my family if I do find them? 
• What will be the effect of the search on my personal life if  I make the decision to do this search? 
• What if I find him/her and they are not the kind of person I was hoping they would be?

These issues and many others need to be given serious consideration.

Also be aware that your feelings will change during the course of your search.

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Talk to your family, friends, clergy or any other person you trust to give you good advice. 

Some people hire an investigator to also act as a buffer between them and their subject. 

If this buffer is needed and you still want to do the search yourself, it is ok to ask an unbiased friend or family member to make the initial contact. 

They will be less emotionally attached to the outcome and more likely to provide you with the information you need to decide if you want to go ahead and make personal contact.

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There are the many possible outcomes of this decision to search, and not all of them are going to be happy endings. 

Your subject may be deceased, may not want contact or you may never find him or her. 

Expect an emotional roller coaster and make your decision with your head and your heart.

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Getting Your Attitude In The  Right Place

The right attitude will keep you positive and focused.  When you are trying to find a person, there will be dead ends and false starts.   

Sometimes there is no support from family members and you might feel alone.  This makes it more difficult to stay positive.

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